Much has been written with feverish anticipation of the possibility of contraception for males. Indeed, it’s been pondered since at least the late 1960s. Recently, an international trial for such a drug has been called off because of the “serious side effects” experienced by 10 percent of the male participants. These “serious side effects” were depression, weight gain, increased libido, and acne. Quelle horreur!
Besides it being amusing that pregnant women frequently experience these exact symptoms, it also likely seems like small potatoes to women who have used hormonal contraception. Here’s a brief list of common side effects that women experience: bleeding in between periods, nausea, vomiting, acne, bloating, weight gain, sore breasts, headaches/migraines, and a decrease in sexual desire. Every one of my female friends who has taken hormonal birth control has experienced at least two of the above side effects. My tally is five.
Of course, these are just the more everyday effects. Just hear what can happen if something goes wrong with Mirena, a brand of IUD.
“Mirena may attach to or go through the uterine wall and cause other problems. Although uncommon, pregnancy while using Mirena can be life-threatening […]”
Exactly what the busy, on-the-go woman needs: uterine rupture and lethal pregnancy!
This is what women are risking for PIV. And some dudes found it too inconvenient to gain a little bit of weight or get some pimples. Boo fucking hoo. When first reading the article on the “failed” trial, I had this image in my mind of a man in a fancy restaurant sending back an expensive bottle of wine because it was ever so slightly imperfect. To think of all the time, money, and sanity women put into having the ‘privilege’ of being nauseous because of the pill rather than because they’re pregnant. . . going to a doctor, submitting to unrelated tests like pap smears, paying for all of that, then paying for the actual pill or what-have-you. All so that your boyfriend/husband/hookup can PIV to his heart’s content!
For a woman engaging in a little reproductive cost-benefit analysis, acquiring and then dealing with the myriad side effects of birth control is still better than pregnancy and all of its consequences (which includes death). For a man, the risks associated with pregnancy are nil, making his incentive for taking contraception considerably lower. The typical dudely bullshit argument in favor of male contraception always revolves around the imaginary woman who goes about sabotaging her own birth control so that she can ruin some poor guy’s life by scraping in all those sweet child support payments (ha – good luck!). Go to the comment section for articles on this topic, and you are sure to see several self-congratulatory men deriding the “feminist takeover” and blah blah blah.
Of course, there is a way for the involved parties to avoid pregnancy and contraceptive side effects. This is a method I call “Don’t put your dick in me”. However, the male always has the ability to refuse this method and just rape a woman, if he chooses. Also, a woman could cave in to the overwhelming internalization of the PIV mandate. Cuz patriarchy works like that.
Telling men that PIV is off the table is sure to elicit guffaws, even the same men who claim to be so concerned that a woman will “trap” them by gettin’ herself all pregnant. Men supposedly have to stick in it something, but when they do, they sure as hell aren’t going to deal with the consequences. Consequences are women’s work.
Droves of men deride any woman who dares to Just Say No to Penis. Again, they don’t want you to swindle them into fatherhood (you scheming harlots!), but if you aren’t down for some PIV, well, then you’re a frigid bitch. Damned if you fuck men, damned if you won’t. Another catch-22, the story of every woman’s life.
RadFemHub: “Womb Rights, Womb Wrongs” by Rainsinger